I asked, "What is this?" I looked at the mug with a perplexed expression. He smiled and responded. "It's just some warm tea for your throat, love."
My boyfriend cannot read my mind (although he thinks that he can), and he is not psychic by any means. He simply noticed that I had an itchy throat and decided to do something about it. All he did was pay attention.
Now, I'll be one of the first to admit that us women ARE indeed complex creatures. We have more needs and desires. We are more high maintenance, and sometimes it takes special provisions to accommodate us. However, ALL WOMEN CAN BE PLEASED AND FULFILLED! It is just a matter of whether or not a man is willing to PAY ATTENTION to us.
First and foremost, all women are NOT the same. We do not want or need the same things that the last woman did. This is why it is important to get to know us FIRST before attempting to engage in any intimate activity with us...the last woman may have liked it rough while the new woman would rather you give it to her nice and slow...BUT if a man is too consumed in himself to explore HER individual needs, he will not please her. God didn't make a mistake when he designed us for a man to have to know us down to a science....this is why it takes ONE intelligent, patient, and selfless man to be worthy of our minds, hearts and bodies. You'll know when you find that man because he will know you so well that he'll unlock the inner parts of yourself that YOU didn't even know was there.
Secondly, It is IMPOSSIBLE to please a woman physically if you do not know her mind and heart like the back of your hand....and if you ever thought that you fulfilled a woman's needs whose heart you did not possess, you're WRONG! You may have given her temporary pleasure, but you did not FULFILL her...and 9 times out of 10, she faked that orgasm.
*Kanye shrugs*......what? (Read next paragraph at your own discretion)
Gentlemen, it's TRUE!! It may be an ego boost to you that you were able to get a lady in bed whom you do not know, but know THIS: Every lady that you laid down with (who you didn't know) only settled for less! You did NOT fulfill her...She did NOT climax, and furthermore, she regretted laying down with you as SOON as the sex was over. Okay, so she 'came' all over you, right? Well biologically, penetration of the vagina will make her 'cum' automatically. That does not mean that she had an orgasm. If you don't know the difference between the two, then you shouldn't be having sex in the first place. Try brushing up on your female anatomy and you will understand what I mean by this. *Female ejaculation does not mean that she has had an orgasm, and an orgasm does not mean that she will ejaculate.*
....how's that for a reality check?
I once heard a quote from an anonymous source that said, "Pay attention to the whispers so that you will not have to hear the screams."
It may sound ridiculous to men that most women would rather drop hints than be blunt about what we want to say. We do this for one of two reasons: (1) we don't want to annoy or 'nag' you, so we try to find a more polite and subtle way to express ourselves OR (2) We're testing your attentiveness.
You may be thinking, "Well, why do yall women always feel the need to 'test' us?"
Simple.
When a baby needs its diaper changed, its not going to just open its mouth and say, "Change me." It's going to do everything BUT state the obvious--it'll cry, make funny faces....and even if it drops ZERO hints that it needs its diaper changed, you should already expect it to need a changing if you know that you have not done so in THREE hours!
If you're oblivious to a woman, you'll be even more oblivious to her child....and no woman wants that for her children. We want to know that you will pay them attention to figure out what they want and need. We want to know that we can trust you enough with our seed....and if we can't, what do we need you for? It's just like when your girl drops hints to you all week about her upcoming birthday....and you forget. Can you blame her for being upset when you were too consumed in YOURSELF to realize that it was her birthday? LISTEN TO THE WHISPERS!
Just like any complicated math problem, each and every woman has her own INDIVIDUAL formula for fulfillment and we can ALL be solved successfully...however, we are NOT meant to be figured out by every man. So if you find a woman to be TOO complicated after you have actually tired to figure her out, that should tell you something right there...
....see what I'm sayin, bruhs?
Peace,
Bri
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