Way To Go, Kam!!

I went to visit and spend some time with my sister this week. As we talked, I watched my 6-year old niece, Jordyn, play with her 2-year-old friend, Kameron. While playing, Jordyn noticed a small spider creeping across the kitchen floor. Like me, my niece is TERRIFIED of spiders! She pointed at it and screamed,
"Spider!!!!!!"
Jordyn then ran behind the kitchen table.
"'Pider?"
Baby Kam asked in a concerned voice as he located the 8-legged critter. He then stuck out his little chest and smashed the spider with his 3-inch sneaker.
"Way to go, Kam!"
My sister and I cheered as Kam walked behind the table to comfort Jordyn.
"It okay, Jordy. 'Pider dead now,"
Kam said, assuring Jordyn that it was okay to come back out and play. He took her hand, and they resumed their game of tag around the table.

Any average person would think that's cute, right? ...and it is; but I think that it's a lot more than cute. In fact, it shines light on the roles of women and men in a relationship, and how relationships do not work out because one role is distorted in relevance to the other. My question is this: Why can't some men play their roles correctly without making up excuses? Most of the time, women CLEARLY indicate what their needs are, and a good man will try to fulfill those needs by any means necessary. I'm not saying that a man should break his neck to fulfill irrational needs for his lady, but if the man can easily provide it, we shouldn't have to ask. Of course, this goes both ways.

Even as a baby, Kameron instinctively felt like it was his job to rid my niece of her fear of the spider. He recongized that if she was afraid of the bug and he was not, then he could do something to make it better. And without question, that's exactly what he did. He protected her and provided a comfortable area for her to play without fear. Jordyn let Kam comfort her, making him feel proud as she showed him that she was no longer afraid.

So men. Stop acting surprised that your baby's-mama is blowing you up when you haven't paid child support in 6 months. Stop acting surprised that your girlfriend is mad at you because you have time to give her but aren't sparing her a single minute! Ladies, don't be surprised that your man no longer has the ambition to do better when you're constantly calling him a nigga and telling him that he's not shit! Don't expect your man to be secure when he walked into the club to find you bent over on another man! Don't blame your partner for finding you repulsing and doesn't want you touching them because YOU cheated!

In relationships (and by that, I mean SERIOUS relationships), needs vary on different entities whether they be tangible or simply abstract. On all levels, needs must be met...and if they can't, the LEAST you can do is try! If you love your partner, you know them as well. So you know what his or her needs are without them always having to tell you. The excuse, "I can't read minds" is BULL****! Babies can't talk, and you can't read their minds, either. But when they cry, you already know to explore what the baby needs, and you fulfill it without even reading its mind.

So men, be a Baby Kameron and provide for your lady without her having to ask. Ladies, be a Jordyn and show appreciation for everything that he does so that he feels proud of himself.

God bless,

Breezy